Summer is upon us, which means wedding season is in full swing! That said, I’ve decided to share some tips with you that will help you express your gratitude for all the wedding swag you’ve just received, will receive soon, or will eventually receive someday.
When I was little, my mom would always be like, Sarah, write a thank you note. She’d make a list of who got me what and I’d have to write to them IMMEDIATELY lest I forget. Which I don’t, because, you know, steel trap, this one.
1. Keep a List
You can have someone do this for you, but I’ve always found it really beneficial to keep a running tally of what gifts you got and who got them for you. This avoids any awkward confusion and you won’t have to write something along the lines of, “Dear Aunt Sue, thanks for the, uh, thing. With the stuff. Yeah. It was truly wonderful and we’ll use it ALL THE TIME.”
2. Get to the Point
When I was little, my thank you notes would always include mundane details about the weather, because it was hard for me to know what to say when I just wanted to express the simplest gratitude. In time, I’ve developed a strategy: save the small talk for last. When people yammer on about their dog and then say, “Oh, and by the way, we LOVED the wine stake. Come see Fluffy soon!” I just feel like they don’t actually care if I come see Fluffy or not. These days, I usually start with a greeting and follow it up immediately with something like, “I just wanted to drop you a line to express my gratitude for the gift card/book/shower cap. It’s really great.” I then follow that up with how I can’t wait to use it, how thoughtful it was, and THEN how much fun I had seeing the sender of the gift/how I’d love to catch up soon and miss them.
3. Avoid Money Talk
The amount doesn’t matter. Sure, sometimes great-grandma isn’t with the times and thinks that $5 can still buy a LOT of music. Other times, it’s a hefty sum. Either way, don’t mention the dollar amount. First of all, if it’s five bucks? It’s hard to not come across as sarcastic about that amount these days. “Yeah, um, thanks a lot for the five bucks, I can go buy a Snickers bar. Which is great, because I’ve been craving chocolate lately.” On the flip side, if it’s a lot more money, have some class and act like you’ve been there before. $2000 bucks? While that’s incredibly generous, it’s likely that the person who gave you that amount knows that. Just say “thank you for the gift of money”. Do NOT mention. The dollar. Amount.
Now go write those notes!