Planning a wedding is hard, and that’s why I love seeing the comments that pop up on the 10 things I wish I knew before planning my wedding post. I also know that because there are so many comments on there, sometimes the good ones get buried.
So, I wanted to take a moment and highlight a great one from Hannah, who has been a bridesmaid and is currently planning her own wedding. Thanks so much for your amazing advice!
In the last month or so I’ve been a bridesmaid at a wedding, attended a good friends wedding and have been busy helping out with both. Plans for my own wedding have now well and truly begun and I’ve realized through my friends’ weddings that the relationships with family, friends and your fiancé are much more important than the color of the napkins. The details of the day are just that, little details. It’s the special moments shared with the special people around you, which are remembered. I now also understand how stressful a wedding can be for EVERYONE, not just the bride and groom. It takes a strong, selfless person to put themselves and whatever else is going on in their lives aside to make room, physically and mentally, for someone else’s wedding.
So in the planning of my own wedding I’ve noticed not everyone is as excited by my wedding as I am, and there is no need to be. They have their own lives and their own issues that are just as important. There is no way I am going to put THEIR life on hold to plan MY wedding. It’s just one day. My goal is to lighten up on the details, involve the people who want to be involved, forget the stress and share the special moments. If one bridesmaid is more excited about her friend’s birthday than my wedding, that’s not going to ruin my day, I get it, I was a young once too. The lead up to our wedding day will tell as much about my friends and family as it will about me.
I hope this resonates for many of the brides-to-be here on the site as much as it did for me!